By  Alawode Babajide| June 15th, 2020|

They’re players in your industry. You know them. They have online presence. And you will like to connect with them.

A professional Expert once said: ‘Your network is your net-worth’. What  this means is that the more relationships you have, the more your chances of accessing opportunities. This also goes to say that humans are epicenter of our achievements in life.

We need people. You need people but not all people are worth your attention. For this reason, I will show you how to network with strangers and gain their trusts.


By privilege, I served as the President of one of the foremost Societies in Obafemi Awolowo University. One of the principles of life that I learnt during my service is relationship. 

During my tenure, the society almost died because I lacked the art of networking. In fact, the first official meeting of the society only had two members in presence- myself and a member. This bitter experience motivated me to start networking in the hard way. This is why I don't want you to go through this.

With deep sense of humility, after that decision, I have increased the number of productive relationships I have. First, the number of my members doubled within two months, impacts increased; I secured an official meeting with the first female Managing Director of the Nigerian Ports Authority- Hadiza Bala Usman, I also secured an official meeting with Amy Jadesimi-the Managing Director of LADOL, the largest logistics and engineering facility in West Africa. So, it has been from one productive relationship to another. This is why I will share few practical steps on networking with you. This way, you will avoid my mistakes.

The topic on networking is vast. Beyond securing relationships, you have to maintain them. But you can’t maintain what you don’t have. This is why I will be restricting this topic to the art of winning relationships. Guess what? There is no better time for you to expand your networks than now. 

In this case, I will be shedding light on the following issues:

What is networking?
Why do you need to network?
How can you network effectively?
Where do you start?


To understand what networking means, you must understand what networking is not. You are not networking when you keep disturbing people with your messages or calls. No, this is different from consistency. There is a thin line between consistency and nuisance. The moment your message or call is not strategic and it is not backed up with good contents then you have become a Nuisance.

Simply, networking is the strategic art of establishing and maintaining significant relationships with people for the purpose of your career, skills, experience, business, ministry, education etc. Networking is a win-win relationship. If your intention is to use people, then forget about networking. Networking is for collaboration, not exploitation.

Fortunately, networking has been made easier, more effective and faster through the use of social media platforms. This means you don’t have to wait till an event is over before you can network with people. With your mobile phone, you can network with millions of people anywhere anytime. This way, you can increase your revenue and impacts.


The world has become smaller. Most organizations are no longer employing the traditional way of recruiting people. You don’t have to leave your location to drop a sponsorship letter or request for an official meeting. This means with online presence, you can make millions, land your dream job, sponsorship, mentor-ship, internships, recommendations and many more. I believe you don’t want to carry last.


Be Intentional

As at 2020, according to the Yale University, there are over 7.8 billion people on earth. So, it is obvious that you can’t network with everyone in the world. You need to concentrate on a specific audience, industries and the top players in such industries to network with. Can you see why it is not smart for a Musician to be networking with a Farmer? Having each other as good friends is not a bad idea but you can’t be spending your entire time connecting with each other unless you have interest in farming or music.

That is just an example. My point is that if your networks are not contributing to the progress of your life or career, then I think you need to reconsider such relationship. 

Become Noticeable

You may think: 'is it that serious?' Yes, it is. You have to be visible on all social media platforms. People must know you and feel your impact before they can present any opportunity to you. If you can’t utilize all of it, I will strongly recommend LinkedIn-it has over 575 million professionals. Other social media platforms include Twitter, Facebook, Slack, Instagram e.t.c. 

However, it is not enough to have an account on these platforms without optimizing or engaging them. Your profile must sell you to prospective networks and top-notch Professionals. You need to consistently build your online presence and become noticeable. This starts from your simple comments, recommendations, posts, likes, professional display picture e.t.c. The key is: be professional.

Cold Messaging

Most of the time, you will send messages to people that haven’t met you before. When you do this, it is called ‘cold-messaging’. But you can’t just send any message you like, there are strategies to follow. This way, people will know you are serious about connecting with them and for the right purposes. 

Unfortunately, people send ‘Hi’, ‘Hello’, ‘Good morning’ as messages to people they want to connect with. This entry is absurd. You need to go straight to the point and state the reason you chatted them up. This way, your message will not be ignored. 

It is always good if you have researched about the person before you send your message. This will make it easier for you to connect effectively. 

Write Good English

When you write good English, your recipient will take you more seriously. Watch your spellings and proofread your statements at least two times before you send it. And if you are not sure, you can give it to someone to check it for you. You might think again, ' Is it up to that?'. My answer is a resounding 'yes'. Please, take this serious. Most people will judge your value and personality with this. Few mistakes may occur but always give your best.

Also, don’t be part of the abbreviation gang; it can hurt your conversations. Don’t write like this: ‘Cn I pls gt ur..’ Typing like this to your networks can annoy them. Write your words in full.


With these few points of mine, I will encourage you to constantly remind yourself that social media platforms are tools to build relationships. However, just because someone is one of your contacts or followers doesn’t mean the person is your friend. The quantity of followers you have is not as important as the quality of relationships you have with them. Build productive relationships!


• Please, get your writing materials and make two tables. The first table will include the names of people you already have existing relationship with, but you want to strengthen your relationship with them. For example, your friends, family, colleagues e.t.c.

The second table will include the names of people you want to connect with for the first time. For example, your specific audience, the top Professionals in your desired industry, Leaders, Pastors, Ministers, top Executives e.t.c.

Please get to work fast and build these relationships.

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